I recently finished up one of Ron Carpenter’s teaching series titled, “What Makes A Man”, and found it to be wonderfully insightful. Initially the title brought some doubt about whether or not it was for me (a woman), but after hearing his introduction, I was convinced that he would share something that my heart was ready to receive. By learning “what makes a man”, it became clear to me, that which does not make a woman, and therefore, what a woman should not seek to make herself into. God has already done a great job. You, woman, are beautifully made and there is no flaw in you! (Song of Songs 4:7) My heart was stirred, and any competition within it was getting squashed in my prayer closet! Yaaaay! This night…I was hearing, I was receiving, and I was getting. my. life! God is truly for us.
“For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.”
~ Habakkuk 2:3 (NIV) ~
My attention was drawn to the somewhat controversial topic of a woman’s role. I want to flashback to Genesis and recall a story about us and for us. My goal is to stir your heart and make you think about God’s word in relativity to the way we live (mind, body and spirit). I’ve included many scripture references for you to do your own study (and I hope you do!). I encourage you to test the spirit delivering this message (1 John 4:1)! And If the truth stings, let it sting! It is a small cost for liberty.
Briefly about Adam…
Back in Eden, good ol’ Adam was placed there before Eve. With his God-given glory and dominion, he reigned slightly lower than the angels (Psalm 8:5; Hebrews 2:7). Adam was a man with great responsibilities, and therefore many requirements (Luke 12:48). He named animals and tended an entire “garden” stretching across the Middle East! It pleased God to watch Adam do his thang. He came from God, “looked” like God, and walked with God; like Father, like son. Gon’ Adam with yo bad self!
Briefly about Eve…
Without coincidence (on purpose, for a purpose), Behold! God had created the lovely Eve from Adam, for the purpose of help and companionship. The woman’s role then and now is to simply help the man with what he needs. Side note: This is why it is extremely important for a woman to choose a man who is Christ-centered and truly walking with God. A wise woman once told me that the real ones are not trying to convince you, they are doing it.
“And it was not Adam who was deceived by Satan. The woman was deceived, and sin was the result.”
~ 1 Timothy 2:14 (NLT) ~
Eve’s deception led her to believe that she was missing something. She sought after this forbidden knowledge and power that seemed harmless and good for her. She sinned, she tainted her legacy, and she placed her family in a position of struggle for life. We are descendants of her, and God has a word…
“To the woman he said, ‘…Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.'” ~ Genesis 3:16 ~
God spoke, and the fight of woman for the position of man began. Now singles, you may think the above scripture is only true for married women, but not so! You, my single sister, are married to the best of the best, God himself! Your devotion and submission is to the Lord, holy in both body and in spirit! (1 Corinthians 7:34).
I believe many feminist, “shero”, and anti-male movements are examples of Genesis 3:16; women attempting to change an order that was divinely set in place. Now I’m not knocking women’s rights; I am for me, and I know that my greatest and highest thoughts of myself cannot compare to God’s thoughts of me (Psalm 139:17). The concept that God exceeds us in every way must be grasped (Isaiah 55:8-9). It is extremely important for us to seek God to learn what is right before we cause a mess. Why cause a mess when you can enjoy rest in His will? Instead of fighting God and man, we as women need to arise and kill our flesh that attempts to control man and obtain something that does not belong to us. That my friends, is liberation!
“Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.”
~ Psalm 51:10 (KJV) ~
If us ladies are honest with ourselves and receptive to the word of God, then we agree that there are a whole lot of us Evelets running around at fault; both single and married. It is time to realign. Awake! Stop listening to the outside world and getting bound and entangled (See Galatians 5:1). You can do this!
“Keep me as the apple of the eye, hide me under the shadow of thy wings.”
~ Psalm 17:8 (KJV) ~
The truth of the matter is, whether or not the bible says go”this way”, we all have the free will to go “that way”, and when we do, although we become separated by sin, we will never ever ever be separated by the love of our Heavenly Father (See Romans 8:31-39). I’m not okay with that, though. I am in no way okay with a one-sided relationship on account of me. Relationships that only take and do not give are not rooted in love. Love keeps the commands of The Most High God, and God has spoken (John 14:15). Protest THAT!
Eve lost horribly and I refuse to lose like that. I may lose, but it will be God’s way, with a humble heart of surrender. It is time for us as women to position ourselves for the restoration of our proper place of worship in God’s kingdom as He purposed it. God uses those who are willing to be used. I believe God’s will looks different for all of us, especially since fewer men are unwillingly rising to their positions, but seeking and discerning His will is key. We may survive outside of God’s will, but only inside can we thrive.
“And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.”
~ Acts 4:12 (ESV) ~
“If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it.”
~ Luke 9:24 (NLT) ~